Out of Marco Rubio’s struggle with gay marriage comes illumination

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OK, this is what I don’t get.

U.S. Sen. Marco Rubio strongly opposes gay marriage, believing that marriage is and ought to be between a man and a woman. That part I understand. However, he also says that he would have no problem attending the gay wedding of a family member, friend or co-worker.

“If it’s somebody in my life that I love or care for, of course I would,” Rubio told a reporter from Fusion. “I’m not going to hurt them simply because I disagree with a choice they’ve made or because I disagree with a decision they’ve made, or whatever it may be. Ultimately, if someone that you care for and is part of your family has decided to move in one direction or another or feels that way because of who they love, you respect that because you love them.”

That’s a sensible, respectful approach, and I have no reason to doubt that it is sincerely held. That’s what makes it so confusing.

On a personal level, as Rubio puts it, he’s not going to hurt someone “simply because I disagree with a choice they’ve made.” So how is it that as a politician, he is more than willing to use the vast power of government to deny that same someone — and many thousands of other, faceless someones — the right to even have that ceremony in the first place?

It makes no sense. Rubio is willing, as an individual, to honor the choices of another individual even if he disagrees with them, as a matter of respect and love. He is not going to “hurt them” by refusing to attend. Apparently he believes that would be mean and spiteful.

But he is not willing, as an elected representative, to show those very same people that very same respect. To the contrary, he is willing to use government as a crude implement to enforce his own preference and deny others a choice that is the most intimate choice that we as human beings can make. Rubio’s willingness to use the law in that fashion has even extended as far as trying to outlaw adoption by gay couples.

Rubio attempts to soften his position a bit by saying that the question of same-sex marriage ought to be decided at the state level, through the democratic process, rather than be decided in the courts. As a pure question of process, that is certainly a defensible position, although according to the Christian Coalition, in the past Rubio has supported a constitutional amendment that would outlaw gay marriage nationwide.

In the end, though, trying to deflect attention to the process, and away from the underlying issue, is a copout. Even at the state level, Rubio would oppose making gay marriage legal. If his home state of Florida put the question to a public referendum, Rubio has made it clear that he would fight it, and in fact he has already campaigned against its legalization in other states.

I suppose what’s happening here is that Rubio understands the pain and sense of rejection that he would inflict on a personal level by refusing to attend a gay wedding. As a decent person, he’s not comfortable doing that, not to someone whom he loves and respects. But somehow he does not understand that when we as a state, nation or society outlaw gay marriage, we impose that pain and a sense of rejection on a much larger, more pervasive scale. Somehow, something is preventing him from seeing what ought to be obvious.

 

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JoelEdge
JoelEdge

"To the contrary, he is willing to use government as a crude implement to enforce his own preference and deny others a choice that is the most intimate choice that we as human beings can make."

And yet people like you are willing to use that same "crude implement" to force people to be a participant in that same choice.

gotalife
gotalife

So chances are Rubio's parents were insane or criminals or they supported the old government.
We know cruz's daddy is insane and it trickled down to his son.

TBS
TBS

@gotalife


They could have supported neither and just left because Batista was a thug himself.

In reality Castro was able to convince many to help overthrow Batista because of the conditions for many in Cuba but he wasn't exactly the answer either

gotalife
gotalife

The history of Castro purging his insane and criminals to Florida was a huge story in Miami.
Crime skyrocketed and the locals bought guns and were scared to death.

gotalife
gotalife

The wapo fact checking rubio lies will be very busy.

gotalife
gotalife

Good luck finding a pharmacy that will stock weed oils.. Most families have to move to Colorado to get it. Sad but true.

JamVet
JamVet

The relative liberalism of young Republicans on issues of homosexuality goes beyond their support for gay marriage. Just 18% of Republicans under 30 say “more gay and lesbian couples raising children” is a bad thing for American society, while 26% say it is a good thing (56% either say it doesn’t make a difference or they don’t know). By comparison, majorities or pluralities of older Republicans say this trend is a bad thing for society.

josef
josef

Question...and no I'm not being snarky, I'd like to know if his parents were claiming to be fleeing Castro or Bautista...? 

Hedley_Lammar
Hedley_Lammar

@josef By Oct. 21, 2011, the biography on his U.S. Senate website still declared his parents "came to America following Fidel Castro's takeover."


I'm assuming following is the key word here.

TBS
TBS

@josef


Well he mentions his family fleeing the thug, Fidel  Don't know what he called Bautista. 

Seems pretty obvious who he was speaking about.  He could have easily said his parents left in 56 fleeing Bautista.  Who he names and what dates he chose would be a huge coincidence in my book. 

josef
josef

Thanks for clearing it up....

TBS
TBS

@josef


But to a broader point, Bautista was certainly a thug as well.   Castro wasn't able to convince the number of people that he convinced to help overthrow Bautista because all was well in Cuba at the time.

It was for the big money players but not for the lower end.  

gotalife
gotalife

There are weed oils for children with seizures to stop their seizures. It works so deal passed it.


That is as far as he will go on weed like most red States.


Leaving millions of tax revenue off the table then cry they are broke.

Normd
Normd

Marco.....................Polo!

Let the games continue...

TBS
TBS

During his rise to political prominence, Sen. Marco Rubio frequently repeated a compelling version of his family’s history that had special resonance in South Florida. He was the “son of exiles,” he told audiences, Cuban Americans forced off their beloved island after “a thug,” Fidel Castro, took power.

But a review of documents — including naturalization papers and other official records — reveals that the Florida Republican’s account embellishes the facts. The documents show that Rubio’s parents came to the United States and were admitted for permanent residence more than two-and-a-half years before Castro’s forces overthrew the Cuban government and took power on New Year’s Day 1959.


http://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/marco-rubios-compelling-family-story-embellishes-facts-documents-show/2011/10/20/gIQAaVHD1L_story.html

gotalife
gotalife

@TBS Figures, they do not need to tell the truth.

Visual_Cortex
Visual_Cortex

@TBS

And really, I don't especially care. He probably got sold a prettified version of family history growing up and passed it along, as many people are wont to do.

TBS
TBS

From the same article



"In 2006, on the eve of his rise to speaker of the Florida House, Rubio told an audience that “in January of 1959, a thug named Fidel Castro took power in Cuba and countless Cubans were forced to flee and come here, many — most — here to America. When they arrived, they were welcomed by the most compassionate people on all the Earth.”


Yet his parents came to the states in 1956...........


TBS
TBS

@Visual_Cortex @TBS


Wasn't really meant for you to be honest.  But if the blog topic is going to be about let's cry about fake immigration stories then let's get them all out for a good whine. 

Paul42
Paul42

@TBS

I guess the guy can always get a gig as an NBC news anchor if the politics thing doesn't work out.

Visual_Cortex
Visual_Cortex

@TBS @Visual_Cortex

Sure, it makes for fun political gossip. I think it goes without saying that I don't care about whatever complaint the right has about HC's fambly histry today, either.

Visual_Cortex
Visual_Cortex

@TBS @Visual_Cortex

I guess it's pretty obvious what I feel about that idiotic "Fauxcahontas" whinge we get from the right, as well...

TBS
TBS

@Visual_Cortex @TBS


And if gossip his Rubio's own words then I can't help you.  

Really not a huge issue to me that you didn't like it being posted. 

But thanks for the input

gotalife
gotalife

@TBS Castro purged the insane and criminals.

_GodlessHeathen_
_GodlessHeathen_

@TBS 

When we see Rubio's and Hillary's names on the ballot, we can decide which embellisher we want to vote for.

Paul42
Paul42

KUTGF


"he will not welcome dishonesty, thievery, nor immoral behavior — particularly homosexuality."

Did that sanctimonious #!@! say how he knows what a person does?  He's making assumptions based  upon prejudice and appearance.  

I don't think he's getting his messages or knowledge from G-d.

Tuna Meowt
Tuna Meowt

@KUTGF @Paul42 "You're gonna love my nuts."


--Vince the Slap-Chop guy



"Mira mi huevos"


--Same Vince, different commercial


josef
josef

SCOOTTER

If you're around on the night shift, remind me I've got a serious question to ask ya...

gotalife
gotalife

So far, the only candidate that wants to address real issues like income inequality and campaign finance is Hillary.


Way ahead in the game.

KUTGF
KUTGF

@_GodlessHeathen_ @KUTGF @gotalife  Hmmmm.... I don't know.  He has been dishonest about his parents.  Seems a bit closer but I am sure that in HChaterland....  IOKIYAR.