Opinion: … because fathers deserve more than just one day

I know Father’s Day was last weekend and all, but this weekend I’m making an overdue visit to the parental units, so this is where my thoughts still are.

Dad sang a lot of songs to us as we were growing up, accompanied by his trusty ukulele. His repertoire was mostly traditional folk songs like “The Ballad of the Boll Weevil” and “Save the Bones for Henry Jones” (cuz Henry don’t eat no meat.) He never sang the song below, and never to my memory uttered the words of the refrain.

But that message was damn sure communicated to us somehow.

 

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Bruno2
Bruno2

I was never blessed with kids.  The closest I came was a couple of miscarriages.  Truthfully, I don't think I was cut out for parenthood.  I can kind of relate to the situation that Common found himself in.  A very honest statement by him.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VzZVNFYleb8

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Bruno2
Bruno2

@Denise285 Thanks, Denise.  Like many people, I had no idea this song had a double meaning.  Unfortunately, I didn't have the kind of relationship that David Gates had with his father, but that's life.....

Always glad to see you on FNM.

Denise285
Denise285

Thanks. There are several people that do/did not have the traditional family situation. A home and family is what you make of it.

2geniuses
2geniuses

@skydog12 if you get the chance to hear Mike Watt play live, don't miss it. He is  fantastic on stage. He is constantly touring with his own groups and as a member of other groups. Cuz is one of his most recent projects proving he doesn't rest on his laurels. He just keeps pushing forward.\\https://youtu.be/ByvtbKhoPn4

2geniuses
2geniuses

@skydog12 after the tragic passing of D Boon, George and Mike carried on at the insistence of ed fromohio. Not as edgy and influential as Minutemen, but still a great trio. I once saw fIREHOSE at Jimmy's in N'awlins and Mike broke a bass string and managed to replace and tune it in less than 1 minute while telling jokes to the audience. Opening act was Mudhoney just before Superfuzz Bigmuff caught on.


https://youtu.be/VSv8FVJtbAk

skydog12
skydog12

@2geniuses @skydog12

That`s how I heard of The Minutemen, my son was telling me he saw Mike Watt at the Earl a while back.

He said the same thing, that Mike Watt was one of the best live acts he has ever seen and he has seen most of them.


2geniuses
2geniuses

@skydog12 @2geniuses looks like he is only playing in California upcoming. He'll be  back through sooner or later. I don't mimic his style but he definitely has had an influence on me. Especially experimenting with unexpected approaches to rhythm and melody.


The trio format is my favorite as long as there is a good drummer.

skydog12
skydog12

@2geniuses @skydog12

Are you around Atlanta? I`m about a 4 drummer and mainly play congas, but my son is a beast on the drums.

If you are in the area, lets get together some time.

2geniuses
2geniuses

@skydog12 @2geniuses yep, live, work and play in the Fightin' 5th District. Will be in Charleston the next 8 days visiting my Dad. I know I asked you this before, but no idea in which FNM thread. Recs for venues, local musicians in Charleston? My Dad is asleep by 9pm every night, so have some room to roam evenings.

2geniuses
2geniuses

@skydog12 @2geniuses I remember this now. Thanks! I play in  2 bands presently, but always down for a jam session. just a matter of timing. we can figure out a connect when I am back in town. disclosure, I am not a standards type of player. I've always played in groups doing original music. that being  said, improvisation is a strong suit.

skydog12
skydog12

@2geniuses @skydog12

Let me know when you are back in town. My son also plays in 2 bands, so we will have to find a window.


Disclosure, we are not standards type drummers either. Should be fun.

If you are in Charleston on Friday night, the Pour House has a good Dead cover band.

Wascatlady
Wascatlady

Glad to hear your parental units are still alive.  Enjoy them, and try to think of all the things you will wish to have asked them later on!

skydog12
skydog12

This was my dads favorite song. 

Every morning for at least 10 years he would call the radio station and request the same song and they played it within 10 minutes of his request, bumping other request down for his.

He was a banker and held the note for the station.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OOKaircCiGI

MaryElizabethSings
MaryElizabethSings

I hope your first words meant that you are visiting your father this weekend, Jay.


I learned when my mother was fading with Alzheimer's that she was cognizant of so much more than most people would have realized even though she died in the late stages of Alzheimer's Disease.  I hope that that thought might give you some comfort, as well as comfort your father in how you talk to him, as you visit him this weekend.